It seems as if all I’ve been hearing lately is “My boyfriend never pays attention to me, all he does is watch sports!” or “We never go out anymore.” To me, all these complaints get to be a little repetitive after a while. Sometimes, men are just different from us women and would love nothing more that to have a nice night in for a change, doing whatever it is that they do best instead of taking care of home improvements or cooking and cleaning. Whether it be playing online poker or working out in the garage, they too need a bit of time to do what relaxes them! Just like us, when it comes to a hot bath or getting a good cry from watching a chick flick. Yes, I know I’m going to the extremes with this and using obvious stereotypes, but I’m hoping to get some sort of picture across.
Women complain that men never want to do what they want to do just as they’ll hold it against them if they don’t seem excited enough as they drag them to see the newest “Twilight” movie. Men can’t seem to win either way. But, here a thought, ladies. Why not try to do something for him from time to time? It seems that we expect so much from our men, to treat us like princesses and put on a brave face when forcing them to get all dressed up for a dinner party, but when do we ever turn around, return the favor, and do something that they’d like to do?
Of course, there are many things we could do, but here are:
5 Everyday Things To Try For Him
1. Video Games.
Ask him to teach you how to play his favorite video game! Whether it be “Call of Duty”, “Halo 4”, or “Mario Golf” try asking him if he’d be willing to show you the ropes or even to show you how it’s done. This is a great idea, especially if you think he has the patience to help you through getting used to playing. A lot of guys get out their anger and frustration through video games and if your man is playing a lot of it these days, there may be something on his mind. Asking him to show you how it’s done may bring up a lot of frustration, but you may learn that gaming can take your mind off your everyday life, and if you can both enjoy that together, you may bond in a way that lets him be him and allows you to understand some of the frustration he may be feeling. You may even be surprised at how much you enjoy it and you’ll be amazed at how proud of you he’ll be…just for trying.
2. Watching Sports.
If your boyfriend loves watching hockey, or any other sport for that matter, and you feel yourself left in the background because you have no clue what’s going on, why not ask him to explain the rules to you? Whether the TV is on or not, you may see his eyes light up as you ask him about his favorite player or favorite team. A lot of guys love when their girlfriend takes an interest in their favorite team. They’ll bring you to see a game, they’ll jump up and cheer with you if the team scores, and he may even let you wear his jersey to support the team. They just appreciate the fact that you’re taking an interest in one of their favorite pass-times.
3. His Favorite Foods.
Some guys know how to make a kick-ass chili or they can even make an out-of-this-world plate of nachos. They get excited about a certain recipe they know is a hit (well- maybe only to them). If a bowl of salad is more to your liking and you’re having conflicting menus at home, why not encourage him when he wants to make his own comfort food. Better yet, try it out! Go out and share a few hot dogs, try a new type of food, and if you’re used to foods with less kick why not try adding a little spice to your food? If your boyfriend is passionate about a restaurant saying “it has the BEST burgers in town” – he may be right. You’ll never know until you try it.
4. “Guy” Movies
Guys love a good “shoot ’em up” film. Explosions, guns, fie, and blood galore! The more limbs flying off, the better. Yes, some movies just might be a little too over the top with the violence, but there are quite a few great movies that all guys seem to love that you may really enjoy. My boyfriend got me to watch “Rocky” by saying “It’s actually a chick flick”…and he was right! I love it. Next time your man says you might enjoy a certain movie, trust him. There may be something in there you can really relate to, or at least enjoy. Try a few of these movies if you aren’t sure:
- The Matrix
- Fight Club
- The Avengers
- The Fifth Element
- Star Wars
5. Being a “Macgyver”
We all know that when there’s something broken, a leaky faucet, or a loose screw we run to our men who just seem ever so handy with their trusty old toolbox. I don’t know how they do it, but they love to tinker around with things, making slight adjustments, and sometimes even fixing something that isn’t broken. There is A LOT you can learn from men like this. Instead of making that “To Do” list for him, why not ask him to show you how it’s done. You never know when you might be in a situation where you need to know how to put a spare tire on your car or what to do if you blow a fuse. Want to know more about computers or electronics? Ask questions! When you get right down to it, he may even know a thing or two about hanging pictures or putting up shelves for decorating! You both can benefit from this. He’ll feel good knowing that he can teach you something useful and you’ll feel better knowing you can be more independent. The bonus is, you can do it together! Why not give it a whirl!
I’m no pro, but…
I think a few of these tips can be really helpful. I’ve certainly learned a lot by trying these things and have even come to adore some of them myself. I never knew how much frustration I get out by shooting people in a video game. The feeling I get from being part of a huge crowd gathering to support one team is overwhelming. I honestly never liked spicy food before my boyfriend encouraged me to try it (you can read all about it). Think about it. Of course, there are circumstances where gaming may be too much gaming (especially if it’s getting in the way of serious responsibilities) but if your guy is just being….well, a guy…why not try to take an interest in his pass-times for a change? And maybe next time you want to put on that chick flick he won’t mind so much. Who knows, he may even like it himself.